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CBI Session for the week of August 9, 2021

Module 12 Session 2

Tolerating Distress (continued)

This week we learned about Distress Tolerance, which is:

Distress tolerance is an important LIFE SKILL, and can also be used for NON-CRISIS situations that involve some kind of pain or difficulty, like painful emotions or discomfort (such as the kind that make you want to AVOID).

This skill is especially important when you want to make changes in your life or accomplish a goal.

Today's session is going to focus on those times when we are working toward a goal that is IMPORTANT to us.

Most things in life that are WORTH HAVING require some kind of effort and struggle. You can use distress tolerance skills to get through short term discomfort to help you be more SUCCESSFUL in reaching your GOALS.

Example 1:

Let's say you want to become a professional basketball player (LeBron status). That means you will likely have to spend years and years practicing, pushing yourself to get better. There will likely be days that you don't feel good, don't want to play, or lose games. You may have to sacrifice other things you want to do in order to spend time practicing.

These moments and situations may be distressing, and you may feel like quitting so that you don't have to deal with the stress. BUT, if you felt like the goal was IMPORTANT enough to you, you might choose to tolerate the distress, knowing it is only SHORT TERM, so that you can reach your goal in the LONG TERM.

Example 2:

You want to get a good paying job so you can support your family. That means you need to get a high school diploma, and probably some additional education like college or trade school. Learning new things can be stressful, boring, or difficult. There will be days when you don't want to do your homework or go to class or training.

Once you have your education, then you have to apply for jobs, and you will probably get rejected from some of the jobs you apply for. Finding a job is scary and stressful, and you may be so nervous that you don't want to even risk rejection. BUT, if it is IMPORTANT enough to you to get a good paying job to support your family, you will find a way to get through those boring and hard classes, and you will risk being rejected, because you know that you won't succeed if you never try.

You may be asking yourself... "So how do I know when I should tolerate distress, or avoid it? "

That's a great question! There are a few things to consider...

Think about your current goals and ask yourself the following questions...

Are there any goals you are currently working towards where you are experiencing distress?

If yes, how important is this goal to you?

How much distress are you in? (on a scale of 0-10: 0= no distress, 10=the most I've ever felt)

What urges are you having that might make the situation worse? Are you considering quitting or giving up on your goal?

Are there any coping skills you could use to tolerate the distress? If so, what are they?

Now, weigh out the pros and cons.

What are the PROS AND CONS of acting on the urges you are having to give up or make the situation worse?

What are the PROS AND CONS of using a coping skill to tolerate the distress and keep working towards your goal?

After weighing out the pros and cons, which one wins? Will it be worth it in the long run for you to tolerate the distress?

Let's give this a try.

Be sure to read the all the directions carefully before answering the questions!

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