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Sometimes when we are anxious, depressed, or unmotivated, we feel like we don’t have the energy to do things. We say:
"Once I feel better, I will do it."
We have to remember that the feelings keeping us stuck are coming from parts of our brain that are trying to protect us by getting us to avoid or isolate. If we follow the lead of our feelings in these situations and WAIT for the energy to come to us, we will only become more anxious, depressed, and UNMOTIVATED.
In short, sometimes we have to
in order to
rather than
until the energy comes to us.
“Enjoyment” involves activities, or “play” that we enjoy for the sake of the activity itself. It includes engaging in hobbies, games, spending time in nature, or spending time with a good friend.
“Achievement" involves activities, such as work or sports, that involve the development of skills; we are able to accomplish things and feel a sense of mastery over our environment. When enjoyed in moderation and diversified well with other activities, they can increase positive emotions and improve how we feel about ourselves. Also, we may feel more creative as we learn to master certain skills, adding to the possibilities of enjoyment.
“Connection" involves activities that we do with others that we care about which help bring us closer. We may spend lots of time around or with other people, but still feel alone. When we engage in activities that further a sense of connection, we are intentionally trying to find ways to grow and strengthen relationships. This may include engaging in pleasurable activities with others, going on a date, or just spending time talking about things that are important to us.
“Values” are what we find meaningful in life. They are the most important things to us. Everyone has different values, and for each of us they can change over time. They are like a compass, pointing us in the direction we want to go.
Values are important to explore, because much of our goal-directed activities are rooted in a foundation of what we value. For example, someone may value a healthy lifestyle and set a goal to exercise daily. Another person may value family and choose to schedule time with their family members. Or if someone doesn't have a family, their activities could lead to getting married and starting one.
*Some of the activities on the list may not be doable during the current shelter-in-place order due to COVID-19. Try to choose ones that are doable, or that can be modified to be doable given current circumstances. For example, if you chose the activity "go to a zoo or museum", you could take a virtual tour of a zoo or museum on the internet.
Here are some tips to help increase and maintain your motivation to do these activities, even when you don't FEEL like it.
Keep activities simple - break big tasks into smaller steps
Set realistic goals
Schedule activities at times when you are most likely to success
Anticipate some setbacks and use self-compassion when you experience a setback
Reward yourself when you are successful
Reflect on what works and what doesn't; do more of what works and less of what doesn't
Change your environment if you are able and minimize distractions
Talk yourself into action - challenge negative thinking!
Start with just 5 minutes of an activity, working your way up from there
Ask someone to hold you accountable to completing your activities
Focus on doing things that are in line with you values and the kind of person you want to be
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